Okay, so this image came from here on failblog. Will someone please take a moment to explain to me why this constitutes as relationship fail? Now, if it happens all the time yeah, probably not good, but I'm a pretty big believer in the fact that for any healthy, working relationship you need your own separate lives and hobbies. If there's a lot of overlap? Great, more things you can do together, but you still need your own stuff/time. If I were dating a guy and he said "so I'm going to go play [insert name of game here] or do [insert hobby here] for a few hours. Talk to you later," with the explicit understanding that he didn't want to be disturbed (barring emergency/brief disturbance for important questions such as "hey, I'm ordering pizza want some?") then that would be cool. Now if this happened all the time, or if we had had plans, then I'd be a bit miffed, but, seriously? Everyone needs "do not disturb" time. I'd expect a guy to do the same for me. Or a housemate for that matter. Or whatever. Basically: respecting your significant other's need for time alone/elsewhere to pursue their hobbies is a very important part of showing that you care. Now go do something you like to do.
The second part of this rant involves the comments on the page. There seem to be a lot of posters (I could be generous and assume that they are mostly trolls, but I'm not sure I have that much faith in humanity) who believe that girls who game are a. desperate, and b. only doing it for male attention.
Fuck that noise.
I am a gamer, I am also girl. Get over it. I play games because I enjoy them, not to impress or get attention from guys. I know plenty of other girls who do the same. Some gems from the comment page:
The question is: why would men try to find women who like to play video games? Can’t they just invite some male friends to play with them? I think it is pretty clear that a man who likes gamer girls is an unaware homosexual who seek women with masculine behavior to satisfy his urge to be with a man and at the same time fool himself into believing he likes chicks.
Wow...really? Assume we're talking about men looking for women to date who play video games. Maybe they'd like to date someone who actually shares their interests and hobbies? I know I'd be way more likely to date a guy who played games. Seriously? I can't stand guys with huge ideas of what it means to be "masculine." Excessive machoism is such a turn off. (I sincerely hope that this person is a troll). The next poster appears to be sane:
or maybe the male gamer wants a gamer woman so they will have something in common and the girlfriend will not urge him to stop gaming and be with her
Yeah, a guy who tried to get me to stop gaming would be out the door pretty quickly. Of course, so would a guy who did nothing but consistently ignore me for games. Moderation, priorities, time management, balancing acts, all that jazz.
From here the comments thread descends into insults, the mildest of which is probably "talking cunt" (juvenille much?) followed by my favorite comment of the thread (one for which I will even forgive the poorly worded posting):
Yup. I certainly hope you actually act the way you sound, because it will guarantee withat you will never see you procreate.
Anyways, here ends my rant. Respect the needs of your gamer or other hobby pursuing girl, or boy, and respect the fact that yes, some girls actually like to game.
Have a nice day.
HackNSlash
